October 31, 2018

Narcissists

Ever met one? I’ve met several. To me they’re the most awful people to be around.

They make me sick at how they trick people. Their minds are twisted in a way you’d never understand if you’ve never met anyone like that. There is no fighting with them or trying to change them. They have to want & seek psychological help.

They love to manipulate everyone around them. They will make their self look good in every way possible. They will make their own self appear that they’re smart as hell. Make their self look innocent & that they’re not crazy to everyone. Oh how everyone just loves them & thinks highly of them….. it’s all part of their game. Other people think that the narcissist does no wrongs at all.

I’ve even been called a narcissist by a narcissist because I’m not & they are. If you back one into a corner, they will flip their shit. If you call them out & show proof of their lies & wrong doings, it’s like satan got unleashed. They will go nuts trying to turn everything around & pin their faults on everyone else. They will literally have a psychotic melt down, completely flipping out on everyone & then boom…they all of a sudden will play poor little me. They’ll admit to one or two things they’ve done wrong & confess their fake care & love to everyone, & boom again…everyone loves them again. Their cycle replays itself. Ever heard of the boy who cried wolf story? Somewhat similar, eventually in time people will stop dealing with that person.

I’m going to add some of my notes where I had researched this behavior below.

*Vulnerable Narcissist- Swing back and forth between feeling superior and inferior depending on what’s going on in their life at the moment. A setback (such as being fired, threatened with divorce, or losing a friend) can bring them to therapy. But when the crisis is over, they drop out. They return to their narcissistic behaviors.

*Grandiose Narcissist- They are less sensitive and more confident. They know they’re superior and will seek revenge or go into a vicious rage against those who don’t treat them with respect or dare give them negative feedback. They may openly have multiple relationships/affairs and pride themselves on how many people see how wonderful they think they are.

Narcissists live in a fantasy world propped up by distortion, self deception, and magical thinking. They spin glorifying fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, attractiveness, and ideal love that makes them feel special and in control. Anything that threatens to burst the fantasy bubble is met with extreme defensiveness and rage.

Their relationships are very one sided. It’s all about the narcissist, never the other way around. And if there is ever an interruption or diminishment in the admirers attention and praise, the narcissist treats it as betrayal.

Narcissist will mock everything about someone that’s around them. Mirror that person’s good qualities. They do this with anyone that’s above them or seems better than them so that they become (to themselves) even better towards the next victim that walks into their life.

Relationships with them will never last without the narcissist receiving help & continuous help throughout the relationship.

This behavior is not a result of just a bad childhood. A person with a great childhood who was rich can also have this behavior just the same. They’re a little different in how they approach people or situations, but ultimately close to the same mental issues, in a narcissistic way anyway.

I’m no doctor nor do I claim to be. I can vouch for the behavior having to have dealt with it in real life though. When you’re standing on the outside looking in at a narcissist at work, it’ll make you sick at your stomach. You know that quite a few people will end up hurt, broke, embarrassed and feel betrayed by them before the narcissist moves onto the next set of victims.

It’s sad, it really is. It has got to be miserable just solely living off destroying other people’s lives. But it’s always too late before anyone is aware of this behavior. People that love them will not see it until they themselves question or threaten the narcissist.

I normally don’t write posts like this, but this is a serious issue among people and many innocent people.

I hope all of you are having a beautiful day!!

Love, Lori

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